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He’s Cute!! But How Do I Get His Attention? Flirting 101
I won’t lie, flirting is an art. You not only have to know how to get a man’s attention in a way that will trigger his happy spots, but you also have to have the courage to do it! Guts, technique, execution, leaving an impression, are all the steps t...
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What’s On Your Mind: Dating In Your 50s
Dating in your 50s, when you’re not in your 50s, probably sounds like the best time in your life to date. Kids are grown, your house is paid off, you’ve got a boat, and a sports car, and you’re living life for all it’s worth!You know the truth. Datin...
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What’s on your mind: Dating in your 60s, 70s, 80s and 90s
Once you’re in your 60s, you’ve got self-confidence in spades. You know yourself, you respect yourself. And you aren’t going to change for anyone.And that’s what’s going to get you in trouble!Your generation has fully embraced the “whatever” expressi...
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What’s On Your Mind: Dating in Your 20s
Dating in your 20s is like…absolutely nothing else.Let’s start with dating and technology. Ten years ago it wasn’t obscure for someone not to have a cell phone, even in their 20s. Now it’s absurd if a twenty-something doesn’t have a smartphone, table...
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What Do I Talk About With That Handsome Man? Dating 201
So you’ve caught a man’s attention and initiated contact with “Hi” and “How do you know the host?”. Well done!Now what?Before your palms start to sweat, I’ve got good news for you. Men are easy to talk to. Yes, really. The approach may be a little di...
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Live The Dating Life You Want
Don’t like the way your dating life is going? Change it!Is there something happening in your romantic life that you don’t like? Do you choose the wrong guy? Don’t like where you go on dates? Do you think you spend too much time waiting for him to tex...
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Don’t Make It All About The Initial Spark
I’m posting this because I had this exact same conversation on Thursday with the four ladies in my Dating Smart Online group.Before I met my husband I didn’t have a specific “type”, but if you’d asked me to write a description of my perfect man, I pr...
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The Single Most Important Question We Usually Fail to Ask Ourselves Enough
What do I want?So simple, so sweet, so full of… je ne sais quois.You should see peoples faces when I ask that question, it’s like I just deposited something sweet yet new on their tongues. Their head tilts back and to the side, a small, almost happy ...
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Is Your Biological Clock Ticking? Don’t Let It Ruin Your Chance For Love!
Ladies, let’s talk about kids and the fact you don’t have any, and you’re already [INSERT YOUR AGE HERE]. You’re upset about this, and understandably so.It’s likely that your mom had kids by the time she was your age, or that you’re divorced and...
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Who Should Pay For Our Date?
One of the greatest challenges of dating in the 21st century is pride. Pride stands in the way of communication, of intuition, and, above all, it makes us put too much emphasis on the question, “who pays for this date?” When you let pride take o...
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Dating Tips to Make This the Year of Romance
Are you tired of wasting time on Mr. Wrong? Are you done with entertaining Mr. For Now? Are you ready for Mr. Right? Of course you are! And you’ve never been more ready than you were at 12:00 a.m. on January 1st. You need a dating strategy! You’re go...
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I’m Tired Of Just Finding Jerks Online
Dear Chantal,HELP! I’m so tired of online dating. It’s not that I don’t get responses to my profile, it’s that every guy I talk to ends up being a jerk!Everyone seems great at first, they’ll be really sweet and we’ll text and chat just about every da...
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I Want A Relationship, But There’s No Way A Guy Will Wait For A Kiss
Dear ChantalI’m from New York and I’ve got to say, your no kissing for 3 months rule wouldn’t work here. The environment is super-fast paced and if you don’t wow somebody pretty quick they’re going to move on and date someone else. And here in the Bi...
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Donald Trump Is Times Person Of The Year, But This Is Why He’ll Never Be Man Of The Year
Donald Trump will never be Man Of The Year.I’ve devoted my career to teaching women the difference between a Man and a Guy to help them avoid the sort of disrespect and heartbreak that comes with allowing someone self-serving into their lives. Donald...
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Is It Okay To Have Friends With Benefits?
It depends.See, I’ve got nothing against the whole notion of a casual, purely sexual relationship. We’re sexy beings, designed by Mother Nature to seek out sexual partners and deeply enjoy what happens next. Able to detect signs of fertility so subtl...
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Sex and Intimacy

Why Do Men Cheat? Ashley Madison Edition
Is it because of the seven year itch? Are we addicted to seeking new connections so we can feel the thrill of that chemical attraction again? Are we needing the feeling of being shiny and new again? Or is it a breakdown of intimacy because somet...
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Fine Tune Your Intuition and Find Mr. Love
You meet a guy, you kiss right away, sleep with him a few weeks later, it works for a while, then heads into a tailspin of disappointment. You meet a guy, sleep with him on the first date to “make sure the chemistry works” like your friend advises, i...
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Should I Hold His Hand? 3 Common Dating Complaints.
Men give us plenty of reason to complain about them. Especially when we’re dating them. If you have some complaints about your man it means you’re spending lots of time getting to know each other, which is what dating is all about! But how do you kno...
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Single Ladies Fear Not the Lonesome Valentine’s Day!
Valentine’s Day is almost here! Hearts are literally everywhere, sweet messages of love and devotion litter every social media platform, red and pink adorn every store window and display. Love is in the air! And you’re going to spend February 14...
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I kissed a guy and I liked it. Can I still use the No Kissing Rule?
The No Kissing Rule. It’s a thing, and you’re interested in trying it out. The problem is that you’ve already made out with this guy, or jumped into bed with him. You tell yourself that it’s too late, you just have to roll with it now. You’ve made yo...
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My Relationship Feels Rocky Because He Doesn’t Talk About His Feelings!
Dear ChantalI need your help getting my man to talk more about his feelings. I don’t know what’s up or down anymore; just when I think we’re getting along fine everything blows up, and he tells me he’s been bothered about some issue for the longest t...
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Can A Relationship Feel Spiritual?
Dear ChantalI keep hearing about “spiritual connections” in relationships and I’m wondering if something like that actually exists.I’m currently single and looking for “the one,” and I want something that feels very deep and connected because it feel...
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What Does a Spiritual Connection Feel Like?
 Wouldn’t it be amazing to be in love with someone who leaves you with zero doubt that he’s your SoulMate? A relationship so connected, so intimate, so Magical that even if you didn’t believe in soulmates before, you certainly do now?W...
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Why Do Guys Get Cold Feet Soon After Starting A Relationship?
Dear Chantal,I just got out of a two-month relationship that started out pretty hot and heavy but fizzled right after we started saying “I love you.” It doesn’t make any sense to me.We had great chemistry and nothing seemed wrong. Saw each other ever...
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Seven Relationship Qualities a Real Man Looks For In a Woman
While I’m all about helping women find the right man, my work is moot if she’s just going to lose him. So what is your ideal man looking for? Here are the 7 traits that will keep him falling for you over and over. 1 – A woman who is emotion...
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I Don’t Understand Your No Kissing For 3 Months Rule…
Dear Chantal,To make a guy wait for 3 months before kissing would be wonderful.. I LOVE the idea but I don’t think it’s possible!95% of all the men in this world would not be able to do that.. their dick will fall off if they don’t have sex in 3 date...
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Communication

Date To Succeed – How To Say No, When You Really Want To Say Yes
“I had an amazing time” you say with a hint of awe, as he stands in front of you looking into your eyes. You’ve just had a fantastic date, punctuated with great conversation, laughter, and fun flirting. He’s looking for his kiss, you WANT to give him...
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Your man bought you the worst gift ever. How do you tell him?
It’s your birthday. Happy birthday! The streamers are strung, the cards are plentiful, and the cake is tasty.Your man got you a scarf and a pedicure gift card! But you have at least 10 scarves – 2 in that colour – and the gift card is for a spa you’v...
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Why you said “yes” to going out with a guy you weren’t into (and how not to do that again!)
So, you met this guy. There’s nothing wrong with him, but you didn’t feel any spark. You didn’t wonder what scintillating conversation you might have over an evening walking through the art gallery. It’s not that he isn’t your type, it’s just that he...
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4 Steps to Improving Your Communication
4 Steps to Improving Your Communication – By John Roche, MSW, RSW, MDiv Transformational CounsellingCommunication is hard. Communication with men – a group taught from birth to repress emotion and avoid vulnerability at all costs – can be downright p...
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I’m Sick of Being Ghosted
Dear Chantal,What’s up with guys who stop texting? My single girlfriends and I have this happen all the time and it’s getting really annoying. We’ll be getting to know someone and everything seems great, and then suddenly we just don’t hear from them...
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When Do I Introduce A New Relationship To My Kids?
Dear Chantal,I’m newly divorced and getting back into the dating game. I have two kids, 7 and 3, and am wondering when’s the right time to introduce a new person to them. I think it should be right away but my friends say I should wait until I’ve bee...
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Matthew Hussey, Please Tell Women The Secret Guys Don’t Want Them To Know
Hey from Canada, Matthew!I’ve been one of your millions of followers for years now, happily watching your fan base grow as more and more women find that handsome face of yours, and listen to your soft English accent dispense valuable advice. And for ...
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How Do I Take This From “Seeing Each Other” to “Committed Relationship?”
Dear ChantalI have been dating someone for about 4 months. All is great, we have fun and have a wonderful connection. We plan dates in the future and get excited to see each other. But he hasn’t called me his girlfriend though.He does call me cute na...
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Should I Text Him Again?
Dear Chantal,Last week I went on a date with someone I was set up with through a mutual friend. We had a great time, had a lot in common, and the conversation flowed the whole night. He even mentioned having another dinner date. The day after our dat...
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When Is The Right Time To Ask If He Wants A Relationship?
Dear Chantal,I’ve been dating someone for about a month now, and I’m wondering when is the right time to have The Relationship Talk? I want to know where this is going, and I don’t want to keep seeing him if he’s not looking to turn this into a commi...
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Modern Dating Tips & Advice

He’s Cute!! But How Do I Get His Attention? Flirting 101
I won’t lie, flirting is an art. You not only have to know how to get a man’s attention in a way that will trigger his happy spots, but you also have to have the courage to do it! Guts, technique, execution, leaving an impression, are all the steps t...
Read More
What’s On Your Mind: Dating In Your 50s
Dating in your 50s, when you’re not in your 50s, probably sounds like the best time in your life to date. Kids are grown, your house is paid off, you’ve got a boat, and a sports car, and you’re living life for all it’s worth!You know the truth. Datin...
Read More
What’s on your mind: Dating in your 60s, 70s, 80s and 90s
Once you’re in your 60s, you’ve got self-confidence in spades. You know yourself, you respect yourself. And you aren’t going to change for anyone.And that’s what’s going to get you in trouble!Your generation has fully embraced the “whatever” expressi...
Read More
What’s On Your Mind: Dating in Your 20s
Dating in your 20s is like…absolutely nothing else.Let’s start with dating and technology. Ten years ago it wasn’t obscure for someone not to have a cell phone, even in their 20s. Now it’s absurd if a twenty-something doesn’t have a smartphone, table...
Read More
What Do I Talk About With That Handsome Man? Dating 201
So you’ve caught a man’s attention and initiated contact with “Hi” and “How do you know the host?”. Well done!Now what?Before your palms start to sweat, I’ve got good news for you. Men are easy to talk to. Yes, really. The approach may be a little di...
Read More
Live The Dating Life You Want
Don’t like the way your dating life is going? Change it!Is there something happening in your romantic life that you don’t like? Do you choose the wrong guy? Don’t like where you go on dates? Do you think you spend too much time waiting for him to tex...
Read More
Don’t Make It All About The Initial Spark
I’m posting this because I had this exact same conversation on Thursday with the four ladies in my Dating Smart Online group.Before I met my husband I didn’t have a specific “type”, but if you’d asked me to write a description of my perfect man, I pr...
Read More
The Single Most Important Question We Usually Fail to Ask Ourselves Enough
What do I want?So simple, so sweet, so full of… je ne sais quois.You should see peoples faces when I ask that question, it’s like I just deposited something sweet yet new on their tongues. Their head tilts back and to the side, a small, almost happy ...
Read More
Is Your Biological Clock Ticking? Don’t Let It Ruin Your Chance For Love!
Ladies, let’s talk about kids and the fact you don’t have any, and you’re already [INSERT YOUR AGE HERE]. You’re upset about this, and understandably so.It’s likely that your mom had kids by the time she was your age, or that you’re divorced and...
Read More
Who Should Pay For Our Date?
One of the greatest challenges of dating in the 21st century is pride. Pride stands in the way of communication, of intuition, and, above all, it makes us put too much emphasis on the question, “who pays for this date?” When you let pride take o...
Read More
Dating Tips to Make This the Year of Romance
Are you tired of wasting time on Mr. Wrong? Are you done with entertaining Mr. For Now? Are you ready for Mr. Right? Of course you are! And you’ve never been more ready than you were at 12:00 a.m. on January 1st. You need a dating strategy! You’re go...
Read More
I’m Tired Of Just Finding Jerks Online
Dear Chantal,HELP! I’m so tired of online dating. It’s not that I don’t get responses to my profile, it’s that every guy I talk to ends up being a jerk!Everyone seems great at first, they’ll be really sweet and we’ll text and chat just about every da...
Read More
I Want A Relationship, But There’s No Way A Guy Will Wait For A Kiss
Dear ChantalI’m from New York and I’ve got to say, your no kissing for 3 months rule wouldn’t work here. The environment is super-fast paced and if you don’t wow somebody pretty quick they’re going to move on and date someone else. And here in the Bi...
Read More
Donald Trump Is Times Person Of The Year, But This Is Why He’ll Never Be Man Of The Year
Donald Trump will never be Man Of The Year.I’ve devoted my career to teaching women the difference between a Man and a Guy to help them avoid the sort of disrespect and heartbreak that comes with allowing someone self-serving into their lives. Donald...
Read More
Is It Okay To Have Friends With Benefits?
It depends.See, I’ve got nothing against the whole notion of a casual, purely sexual relationship. We’re sexy beings, designed by Mother Nature to seek out sexual partners and deeply enjoy what happens next. Able to detect signs of fertility so subtl...
Read More
Online Dating – How To Cut Through The Bullsh*t And Optimize Your Experience
Before you log off that dating app (or throw your phone against the wall in disgust) let me give you hope. There ARE some pretty awesome men out there, looking for a wonderful woman like you.The problem is it’s getting harder and harder for you ...
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“Incel” doesn’t mean “A-hole”
With understanding comes compassion. Life begins when you ask the right questions.These are two “isms” that often fall from my mouth, and when something happens that shakes our belief systems we need to take a step back and apply these two principles...
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Where Is This Going? How Do I Tell If He’s Into Me?
How frustrating is it to spend time thinking up a text that’s not too hot, not too cold, open without being too long, signalling interest without sounding too needy, then waited with bated breath… only to get a one word response in return? ...
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Why Do Nice Guys Finish Last?
Dear ChantalHow do I get people to see that I am more than my looks? I’m sensitive, passionate, a teddy bear for the most part, and a great dad, but that never seems to convey itself in the flesh.What people don’t see past is my shaved head, goatee, ...
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How A “No Kissing For 3 Months” Rule Helped Me Finally Choose The Right Man
Boy, did I ever have my share of mistakes.My first love was someone my whole family hated. “He’s such an asshole!” my sister kept saying. Meanwhile, my mom did her best to ground me enough to keep me from him, and my dad had a fit when he found out I...
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I’m Not Pretty Enough To Find Love
Dear Chantal,I hate to say this out loud, but I really don’t think I’m pretty enough to find love.I’m in my late 30’s and have been single for almost two years now, and I’m seriously thinking of just giving up. I’m tired of trying, tired of meeting p...
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Dating? This Dating Coach Says “No Kissing For 3 Months” Lands Mr. Right
Stand back, cause I might make your head spin. And the fact is, it’s time for someone to turn this idea about when to share that first kiss upside down. We’ve been putting the cart before the horse for too long, and I’m about to put the horse ba...
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My Future Relationship Should Accept My Issues, Right?
Dear ChantalI’m hoping you can settle a disagreement between my friend and I.I’ll be the first to admit I have my issues; I come from an abusive background, and I’m sure it’s the reason why I have such a passionate temper and can be pretty insecure a...
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How Do I Tell Someone I’m Dating Other People?
By now you probably agree with me that it doesn’t make sense to commit to strangers. I mean, this whole “Kiss and see where it goes!” dating style we’re using is so ass-backwards it’s no wonder singles are miserable AF.Kissing someone with your finge...
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What Does It Mean When A Guy Gives Me Attention?
I’m going to be brutally honest here, getting attention from a guy means absolutely nothing.Let me clarify.A Guy who doesn’t want anything from you but your sweet booty when he wants it will pay lots of attention to you. Text messages up the yin yang...
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Break-Ups, Separation & Divorce

Relationship, Engagement & Married Life

Attachment and Mental Health Issues

Conflict Resolution

How Can I Keep My Disruptive Child From Affecting My Relationship?
Dear ChantalI have a 14-year-old son who has some mental health issues. He’s diagnosed with an exhaustive list of attention deficit disorders, and we’ve just started therapy for the fourth time. My boyfriend does a great job of not engaging in my son...
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Is It Okay To Work With My Ex, Even If My Boyfriend Objects?
Dear Chantal,What are your thoughts about working with an ex? My ex (Troy) and I dated for 4yrs or so. He has a home renovation business, where I often lend a hand doing various jobs from administration to actual projects inside homes. Side note...
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My Boyfriend’s Daughter Doesn’t Like Me
Dear ChantalI’ve been dating an amazing man for a year and everything is going great. We bought our dream house together, get along well, and don’t fight over who’s responsible for what. Plus, he’s a great cook too.We’re both divorced, and my kids ar...
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I Found My Friends Husband on Tinder. Do I Tell Her He’s a Cheat?
Dear Chantal,I’m single and using multiple dating sites to try and find The One. One of the dating apps is Tinder, and last week I was scrolling through and saw my friend’s husband on there. He’s using a different name, but it’s definitely him. I’m l...
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The Person I Love Keeps Going Back To Their Abusive Ex
Dear Chantal,I’m seeing a wonderful woman, however before me she was “on and off” in an abusive relationship for 4 years. We’ve had some amazing times, full of love and romance, but whenever we get to the point of committing she pulls back and starts...
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Matthew Hussey And Camila Cabello Broke Up – Let’s Talk About This
Matthew Hussey recently released a video about how to recognize if you’re dating a toxic person, which I was going to post my own opinion about because what he said you should walk away from were simply natural things we tend to do when we fight.My p...
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